在過去幾年中，有一個名詞“女強(qiáng)人”在社會上變得非常流行，它意味著女兒的解放，以及男人和女人之間平等的就業(yè)機(jī)會和社會地位。但是時間會說明一些問題。越來越多的實例顯示出這類女強(qiáng)人的婚姻一般不會幸福，甚至走向失敗，這是為什么呢？

    In the past few years, a norm " able woman" became popular in the society, it means the liberation of female gender and the equal working chances and social status between women and men. But time could prove everything.More practical examples of able woman have shown that the marital life of this kind of women is generally not happy, even many of them end up as a failure.Why could this happen?

    讓我們看一下女強(qiáng)人的性格特點，她們有著堅強(qiáng)的意志，不管遇到任何困難，她們都不會退縮，相反表現(xiàn)出強(qiáng)勢與勇敢，果斷與精明，甚至比男人還男人。這些性格特點使她們在事業(yè)上取得了成功。但是他們把這種作風(fēng)帶回了家。她們面對家人的時候，也凌駕于他們之上，很霸道，強(qiáng)迫每個家庭成員服從自己的命令，否則就會用犀利的語言和咆哮對待他們。她們甚至讓自己的老公犧牲自己的時間和精力照顧家務(wù)、孩子和老人，讓她們有足夠的時間打理事業(yè)。

     Let's see the charateristic of able woman. Generally, they have strong-will,no matter what difficulties are put in front of them ,they won't shrink,reversely they behaves mighty and brave, decisive and shrewd, even more masculiar than men.This kind of manners make them successfully conquer their career.But they bring this behavior styles back home.When they face their families, they also superior to them , so arbitrary, forcing every member to obey herself, or they will hear harsh words and roars.They even make their partner to sacrifice their time and energy to take care of housework and children and seniors ,letting herself has enough time to deal with her business.

    所以作為她們的老公，就會有兩種反應(yīng)。一種是在這種女人的壓迫之下，他們真的變的懦弱無能。隨著時間推移，他們夫妻之間在事業(yè)上的差距越來越明顯，女人開始意識到她們嫁了一個多么無能的丈夫，他們開始抱怨，把更多的屈辱施加于老公身上，這又使情況更加惡化。另外，作為這類女強(qiáng)人的兒子，他們會跟自己的父親一樣懦弱，像扶不上墻的爛泥，而女兒會學(xué)習(xí)媽媽，歧視男性，不服從權(quán)威，強(qiáng)勢，就像母親的復(fù)制品。

    So as the her husband, they will generate two kinds of responses. One kind is that they really become very cowerd and timid and furtile under the surpression of the woman, as time goes by, the gap between their career becomes more apparant. The woman begin to realize what a unable man she has married.They complain much and give more insults to their husband, which make the condition deteriorate.And what's more, as the sons of this kind of woman, they become as cowerd as their father, like slime couldn't be smeared on the wall. and the daughters will learn from their mother, they dispise men, don't respect authority, and mighty,just like their mother's copy.

    她們老公的另一種反應(yīng)是，他們不能再忍受這樣的壓迫，作為一個男人的自尊，他們不能再面對社會壓力，相對于成功能干的妻子，他們顯得如此沒用，所以最終他們與她離了婚。

    The other kind of their husband's behavior is that they won't bear the oppression any more, with the diginity as a man, they couldn't endure the pressure from the socity, for compared with their able wife, they seem so furtile,at last they devorced their wife, no matter how much glory their wife has.

    但是與女強(qiáng)人相反的情況是目前到處興起的一個新名詞“強(qiáng)女人”。這種女人是這樣作為的。不管她們在工作中成功與否，在家里，她們把自己放在最低的位置，甚至比孩子更低，這是對老公的男子漢氣概和孩子自信心的保護(hù)。她們有足夠的智慧明白男子漢氣概是由女人味烘托出來的。提建議和改正別人缺點的最好的辦法是贊美和鼓勵。她們是溫柔的，在老人面前是順從的，這使得老人每天都有好心情。所以整個家庭以她為核心充滿著溫暖與和諧，每個人都有燦爛的現(xiàn)在和更加美好的未來。

    But on the contrary of the case of able woman, nowadays a new norm "successful woman" soars everywhere.This kind of woman behaves like this.No matter whether they succeed or not in the occupation, in the home ,they put themselves the lowest of the family, even lower than their children, which is the protection fo the masculinity of their husband the self-confidence of their children.They are wise enough know the masculinity is boosted by femininity.And the best way to give her advice and correct other's mistakes is by appraising and encouraging.They are gentle and soft.To the old men, they are obedient,which make the old have good mood every day.So the whole family is warm and homonious,every member has splendid today and more wondeful future with her as the core.

   現(xiàn)在你可以得出結(jié)論，女強(qiáng)人就是除了她自己之外家里所有人都不強(qiáng)；而強(qiáng)女人是她讓家里每個人都強(qiáng)。

   Now you can get the conclution, the "able woman"is that nobody in the family except herself is strong.But the "successful woman" is that she makes    everybody in the family prosporous.

   你會選擇做哪種女人呢？

which kind of woman do you want to be ?